Because, you no longer need the list mentioned in the previous section, you can replace it with your best photographs. Life is fun and exciting, enjoy it. Of course, it is unnecessary to achieve a model-like physique. But you should do regular exercises to boost your heart, bloodstream and brain each morning. Regular exercise can generate positive energy and fill you with confidence.
As the result, people are more likely to return some positives vibes to you. Do this at least three times each day, during the lunch, when you arrive at your home and before you go to sleep. A compliment can be superficial or deep, whatever it is, it will help to improve your mood, even if only a little. Highlight positive aspects you experience during the day. If you make this a habit, you can do it easily no matter how rough how your day is.
Even if you no longer hate your unfavorable physical attributes, you should always find ways to improve it. Chances are the real reasons are very superficial and shallow. Set aside enough time each week to do something you like. It could be anything from walking on the park and watching a movie. Sometimes doing nothing but sleeping and watching TV at Sunday can recharge you for the whole week.
This may sound silly or useless, but it works! People who wear cute and amusing knickers are more likely to feel confident when facing other people. This is a reverse of the previous section.
Start to make a list of things you like about yourself, for example. Put the list next to photographs you snapped previously, both can be a powerful combination to make your appreciate yourself more. Ask your close friends to accompany you in a short travel. You can spend the day fishing and have a delicious lunch. After all, if God loves you, and He does with all of your faults and hurts, it should make it easier for us to accept ourselves.
But I am of value because God loves me, even if no one else does. And most importantly, keep your faith in God this will help lead you to the happiness you seek. Please stop hating someone God loves so much. Check out one of my other blogs about self-hate: Kasey, We are sorry you feel this way. It may not feel like it however we want you to know that God had a genuine love and compassion for you. I want to die and there is nothing that can change that.
If God has told you He loves you that means you should not feel less or down because the King of the whole world says you are good, you are enough. Often we struggle to block out the voices of people who put us down but I think what you should do is block out the voices in your head that are trying to put you down. I am also suffering now, but the best way to help yourself is to make a positivity journal, start with just three entries. You have to say it yourself. Hopefully tomorrow, my 1 will be that I helped someone online.
Decide what I want to change about myself? How to change that? Build up my self esteem? Why did I bother to write this? I stayed for my parents. Fell in love and stayed for him. He has on numerous occasions mentioned he is ashamed to have members of his side of the family see me, and he says he hates hugging me because he can feel my fat. I work very hard and I am a cleanly person. All these criticisms are breaking my heart, and leaving me in a constant state of anxiousness.
I am never comfortable. I often wish myself away from family home, and back at my desk in work because it is one of the only places I feel accepted, and even there I am constantly on edge. Does my breath smell, does my skin smell, is this top hugging me too tightly and can everyone see my fat? When I make a remark I instantly feel as if it was a stupid thing to say. When interacting with a set group of people such as colleagues, I am constantly feeling as if I am the disliked one.
Hi Mary, I felt very sad reading your comment. You sound like a lovely young woman. If I were you, I would limit the amount of time you spend around your abusive father. His behavior is abuse and it is not acceptable. Is there a way you could move out of your family home or find activities that would keep you out of the house more? Wishing you happy holidays and a happy birthday! I feel like because I was beat daily and my step mother reminded me daily thay noone liked me and I was stupid.
Im 36 now and I cant trust or really like anyone I guess ill feel this way forever a complete waste of life. I have never been abused. I was always happy, lucky, had and have a great family that takes care about me. But i hate myself. I hate myself for not being what i want to be, for being too lazy at one time, and not having enough rest at another. I hate myself and i hate others. Some i can accept and love. For no reason i hate, and hate. But how comes i manage to scare people away with my thoughts. In one place i act like all people do, in another i act polite and careful, in third i act angry.
Almost all of them love me still. What is wrong, and is something wrong, is there anything i have to do? Not that i would do it, i just wish to know. The unknown eats me from inside, and the worst thing is that nobody can give me a valid answer! There is no truth, we know nothing, and we will never know. All is wrong, all is different, nobody will ever understand a person sitting right next to them!
And yet i wonder, why. Why do i bother myself hating others.
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Why do i bother myself with anything at all. I have to keep on going forward, i cant quit. This is not something i must quit. I am from India…. I am completely shattered and needs an expert advice. I prepare well for an examination and is failed. I was sure that i had done well…now i lost all my self confidence. I want to become a researcher. Normally i dont talk much to people about my problems, thinking that they are not interested in listening.. Oh my, I read some of your input and I just want to cry. I was so much against them. It started working after 2 weeks.
I am 20 doing law I chosed this profession no one forced me but I am not putting any efforts to succeed I dnt know why my parents r supporting me although I have been a failure in my lyf they still r investing so much on my studies but em not being able to give them good in return although law is my passion: I wana marry him n he also have same proffession as my father my prob is I dnt wana hurt my parents plus wana marry him I hate my self cuz I em disobeying em wht should I do: Why do I hate myself so much, I look in the mirror at my self and I am disgusted.
I try and exercise and I feel like I am going to break my ankle and my chest starts to hurt I also feel like I am not able to get enough air in my lungs. I constantly feel like punching a wall to hurt myself because I am to much of a wimp to hurt myself. I feel like everyone expects me to make them happy no matter how I feel about it.
I use work for an escape from that stressor. The new guy is putting everything in the wrong place and inventory is next month. I want the managers supervisor position but I know that I will never be good enough for that job. I try to exercise to get ride of stress but it hurts so I stop and I just try not to eat and fail. Everything that I do I fail. What is the point of trying when there is so many more people better then you. I am so mad all of the time because I feel that I will always be stuck at my husbands parents house. Every penny I make goes to my husband and what he wants.
So I never can save my money. We are stuck here and it sucks, I am trapped here. Everyone here hates each other they are always yelling at each other. I hate my self I want someone to hurt me because I cant do it my self. I cant do anything right someone is always mad at me.
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I have been snapping at people a lot even when they are actually being nice. I fear I have lost myself and I am never coming back. I hate who I am I am fat and ugly and a horrible person. I feel that I am completely worthless I cant do anything right an I always feel like crap. I am just dragging everyone down. I need someone to talk to me that wont yell at me. I deal with this as a 40 year old man. That feeling is still there though. Still real and powerful. I hate the world. Objectively, I know these thoughts are self-destructive, and that the world is beautiful as well as ugly, and that life is what you make of it.
Those are just rational thoughts though. The thoughts that feel emotionally real are the self-destructive ones, and it is those that are with me through everything, like a barrier I have to push through every day in order to live some semblance of a normal life. Im 20 years old im a girl thats why i have been kept in house for years no school no college n now i am getting married i always feel that i am not perfect i hate everyone in my life i just for once want to live like other people i have been home. In my mid forties and still hating everything about myself.
Too tall, overweight, not beautiful , no talents and not really good at anything. Just feel like I am the perfect example of what not to do. The only thing that I did right was not having children. Somehow i value myself by numbers, my net-worth is always too low. BMi needs to go way down.
I tried so hard to make something of my life but got nowhere. I spend my roaring twenties in prostitution. I always tried to learn something , took bookkeeping classes and moved on to normal office jobs. Greener pastures were found outside of Europe, i got a student visa for a school in a rural area overseeas and married my fantastic husband I am now feeling stuck in the wrong carreer , i am always working and not getting anywhere.
I am trying to start my own business, but it is a battle, just like keeping my weight down. Looking forward ,dark clouds are on the horizon, with an aging husband he is 22 years older than me a 95 year old mother in law that is having alzheimer, an 85 year old dad with health issues and an 87 year old boss, all needing my care and assistance. Not sure how I am going to get through this and still come out broke. Dad, mil and boss are all very demanding and just feel trapped and out of ideas to make life better.
I happen to be kind of overweight and this has always been my major problem. My mother is very often pushing on this, she tells me that I should be way slimmer, that other girls are prettier because they are thin. Lately I noticed something weird on my sleep schedule: I feel demotivated and tired more oftern. I usually get up at 6AM and go to sleep at And here my mother comes again. I am a good student and I study everyday, but lately my focus has decreased. My marks got worse: Today I had a math test, I gave my paper and then waited for everyone else to get out of class. The teacher was still in, so he talked to me and I got slowly calmer.
I hate myself for all of these reasons: They even sell smoke to each other. But they, she says, they are the perfect daughters. I have possibilities of having both social anxiety and the Asperger Syndrome. Hi i am anil, I have been through lots of ups and downs in my life. I am short heighted person. I was bullied during my school days but last 2 years of my school life was amazing as i changed my school. Later i shifted to another city for my college and found it difficult to adjust initially.
I have started feeling what if i go to another company Right now i am happily working in a company where everyone acknowledges me where whatever had happened to me in the past happens again. It keeps making me depressed. Please read my story. Well it started when I had to choose the biggest yet decision in my whole 19 years of life. It was when I had to choose my university. I originally dreamed of studying overseas, I used to dream of it so much that it was the only thing that I strive to live for. To study locally, and I rejected all those other, much better offers to go overseas.
I regretted it after some time. It has come to haunt me again from time to time even after a year had passed. Can you help tell me about my condition? It may seem like a small matter, but it really is slowly killing me from inside. Finally, thanks for reading this rambling thoughts of mine. I appreciate your efforts.
I hate myself when i saw my mother, because the longer i being at home, the more i realised that i have her character. My mother is a self centered woman who wanted to be loved and need attention all the time. Everyday I hear her nagging all the time, about how her body is not well, ask my father to massage her, about how much house work she should do everyday, and the worst is when she asked me why i am always looked sad when i am around her.
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And i am being the same as her. I always nag to my boyfriend, want him to be always beside me, always complain Just like my mother. I cannot be happy around her, because i feel like seeing the copy of me. I want my boyfriend to have a good wive, i have a thought about breakup with him, he deserve better. Maybe i will just fine and not married. I genuinely believe the only good thing about myself are my looks.
It sounds vain but my personality is so screwed up I had to find one thing about myself to even remotely like. During our first winter A-level results I messaged him sending the same message twice because I forgot I;d sent anything first his reply was so delayed. I snapped back but all I wanted to do was apologise the guilt was crushing me. I never handled it well. He made me try to find him for twenty minutes then when I did completely blew me off in front of all my friends. I only had 5 minute before the coach left and it was as the coach was leaving he decided he was interested in my existence.
Once again I just blamed myself and it took me a long time to accept any of it was his but when I did I heaped all the blame on him. I would frequently devalue myself and I found socialising with people I barely knew like navigating a mine field. The easiest solution was to lock new people out. Just before I went off to uni I summoned up my courage and told my friend I liked him. I got rejected because I was leaving. I came back home for a couple of days and he first response was we should hook up.
Knowing full well I still have feelings for him. I hate myself so much. I feel like this all the time. I make so many mistakes and I hate myself for them. I get called out for things I know are wrong and I snap and call their faults out too and I hate it. And I hate, hate and hate. But I found the worst things that leave my mouth are almost always the worst ways I feel about myself. I criticise others for the things I hate in myself or when I hate myself.
And I hate myself some more for doing so. Being a mother now and dragging my daughters through the same shit my parents made me go through I feel so ashamed and unworthy of any admiration. And there are things I like about myself. But this constant feeling of never being good enough, I wish it would dissappear. I want to be the mother others are. And meeting the emotional needs of their children. I want to be the parent I wish I had.
But I have no qlue how to. God how I wish I could heal myself and forgive. But I understand those who do. Cause at the same time I hate everyone for not standing up for me when things went wrong when I was younger. The only thing I feel I do right is aknowledgeing to my kids that I am wrong. But I know it wont heal all there wounds. I love them so much I just hope I can teach tgem to love themselfse.
I feel this very much. Overbearing, truly cruel stepfather and a neglectful biological Father did not help matters. Mostly, I feel grossly inferior to almost everyone around me. I hope you believe it. Why am I feeling this way is all that I could think. What a waste of time this is! Hating myself and feeling as though I am deficient innately is a hell that I would not wish upon anyone. I feel that my wounds are so deeply seeded inside of me that I couldnt even find them to try and eradicate them from damaging my life further.
I fear everything, yet come across as one of the most confident men. I want truth, love and substance in my life. To be able to truly accept that I can be loved by myself and others would truly be the greatest addition to my life and in order to save me from myself I have to make it happen. My friends usually treat me like trash all the time, and they always strive to be better then me. When I draw a picture, one of my friends will flat out says that its ugly, weird, or stupid.
I hated him and attacked him verbally, but was not sent to any office nor did I get in trouble. Ive been having these questions lately when I cant do something like, why am I even bothering? I guess the reasons these people are still my friends is cause when I was younger nobody wanted to be friends with me. I have moved around the country and all but one of the places I found people that wanted to be my friend.
I never wanted to lose them because, this was my only shot at friendship, nobody else rarely bothered with me. Now for some reason I always see a little troll with elf ears when I look in the mirror, and I cry more easily too. My parents are nice most if the time but one night, my Dad and I got into a huge argument. I started holding back tears while I was going to the bus stop and a girl asked me what was wrong and I said nothing.
Heck, this is like a car crash on bad memory-lane: But my friend, Akasha, she had mental problems. She even sent me and email saying she wanted to kill me. That made me scared and for some reason, make me hate myself even more. But please answer me back and tell me how I should break-up with my friends. And at 27 I just realized that I hate myself. My parents divorced when I was 4 and my mother took me with her. My father was a drunk and stayed with his parents, they had a farm in the countryside and as a kid I always had great summers there. I remember my grandmother telling me fairytales before I go to sleep and my grandfather working all day EVERY day so we can have food.
They both were hard workers, our country was poor. And till this day I have visited their grave just once. During their last years I visited them only to ask for money and never helped them with anything. I am a horrible person and just realized it… so many year later. I never open myself to other people, even family. I never told my grandparents that I love them but I do, I miss them so much and I hate myself for not looking after them. I usually chase stupid and unworthy things in life. I love sports and healthy lifestyle, good food, think those are the only positive things in my life, but stopped it after I broke with my last girlfriend half a year ago.
I do hate myself, the funny thing is, this article is based on negative talk that is untrue, all the negative self talk I say about myself is true. What if a person really is dumb, what if a person really is a loser? I have been in a relationship for almost 4 yrs now, I have changed a lot of things in that time to accommodate him.
Almost 2 yrs ago his sister had CPS take her 3rd child a place her with the grandmother. Being who I am and how much he loves his mother we all moved in together to help raise his 2 nieces and nephew. I just recently quit my job to stay with them while his mother went back to work. I am at my wits end. They are all under 4 yrs and just want to act out all the time. I feel that I am losing my mind. They are beautiful kids one on one but get them together which is usually all the time and I have satan and his disciples. What can I do. I have no right to tell anyone how to live their life or what strategies to adopt in order to improve your situation.
I will say this.. I say this because for a long while I had goal, it was personal it was ambitious , it is everything that many if not all bright students aspire to be but few make it all the way. I should be happy right? Whatever your hopes dreams and wants. You can obtain them all but. You may not be in control of what thoughts float around in your mind but YOU do have power over what thoughts true or false you choose to believe.
I admit, I have lost my family but…….. To learn more about the Lifeline, visit http: It could be anything.. Well,i suppose searching for hope is not that easy ,or probably useless.. But still,i hope you guys would live a happy live. My mother died by suicide when I was 15 months old and my dad soon remarried a woman he had just met, but who love bombed him and promised whatever…long story short she was mentally abusive in the extreme due to her hard life growing up.
She neglected all of us and pursued her own agenda to the detriment to all of us. The key to my healing has been to look at all of it squarely in the eye. It is torture to see how I have pined away for her love my entire life; just wanting her to fulfill the unspoken promise of giving me love when I finally deserved it!
I am 54 years old and still feel a deep well of unrequited love. She hated me to spend time with my father as she felt left out. She sent me to other homes to work on the weekend nights so I never was able to see my family much. I was outcast and unloved. Beaten, yanked and hated like you cannot believe; she got everyone to think I was a bad person. More than that, I wish she would just say she was sorry. I have been bullied most of the time, people would be talking behind my back as if I was blind but I actually know that they were talking behind my back.
Every single time I go to school I would see some girls giggling when I walk near them. When I go to school I would hear people saying hi or hey to each other while im walking past everyone and as if I was invisible. It makes me feel sad. It feels like im locking myself from happiness and not accepting the fact that theres many different people out there. I never got to tell him how much I really loved him and now I will regret it till I die I guess I took him for granted. Reading some of these comments struck a chord in me.
Ever since I was young, it was perfection or failure. Eventually I got a job moving several tons of metal consistently cart pushing at a very busy grocery store and she stopped. I feel alot of the same exact thing as in it.
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One of the most difficult things to understand for me were the self destructive feelings. A nagging voice in my head was there saying they want you to push farther, strain the relationship even more. At times I even would catch myself telling blatent lies for no other reason I can accept other than wanting to make people hate me. For some reason it seemed the only way to stop the constant uncertainty in my mind of whether or not I should take their words as truth.
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Sometimes I admit I was actually hoping I would be able to become my old self but it seemed death was my only resolve. I have always considered relationships as one of if not the most important aspects of my life. This was actually were the problem was originated at. I had let myself become so consumed with the question of peoples motives it drove my mind into circles and changed my thinking. Over time as I realized what people think about me is much much further down on the list than I ever realized and that everyone has their own problems in life I realized the main problem.
They had been doing what they were supposed to the entire time and I was so backwards and selfish I took it and turned it into my own delusions and pschycosis. I made my worse fears become true and have no one but myself to blaim. Interesting to read about tense parents…. I experience myself as very likeable, actually. If everyone in the world was like me it would be no problem! I am 25 and I think everything started going downhill upon starting the University, drinking and smoking like no tomorrow: I was the best one in the primary school, the best one in the secondary school, so and so at the high school where I crashed my psyche on cannabis and an average one in the uni.
I managed not to become a drug addict but I have had problems with drinking behaviour, my body is weak and shows signs of premature decay and most-of-it-all I feel totally out of place.
It seems so impossible for me to stop smoking more than few days, to exercise, to not to drink, to burn bridges with the bad influencers and so on. I am thinking of moving to another cirty to start from scratch. Hi, I recently came across your article and it answered a few of the questions of why I hate myself so much.
As a kid I was raised by my single mom who honestly I think as an adult now has narcissistic tendencies. I was always told as a kid I was nothing and I will always be nothing. I was verbally and physically abuse as a child by my mom who eventually kicked me out at 17 because I was competition in her eyes when it came down to her new husband. When I lived on my own I dealt with sever depression for many years I finished college and had 2 children as someone who succeeded in things she never thought she would I still hate myself so much. After years of therapy I thought it would get better and it has when it comes to depression but anger and self hate has become my handicap and I really find it hard to move on from it.
I do make sure that my kids never hear such negative things from their mom. But I still feel like that little girl inside me has not healed at all. Just at this point I am so lonely …. My parents were awesome. I wrack my brain trying to figure out why I feel so inadequate. Maybe because every boy I liked in elementary school not only rejected me but made fun of me for it? Maybe because my older brothers made me feel like crap all the time?
I was easy when I was a teenager, though. No wonder no guy wanted me. I have always been a fat loser. This was a great educational post. This post is also reassuring of the fact that it is possible to overcome self-defeating thoughts. Hello, my name is Payton, I just recently looked up why do I hate myself and saw this wonderful and helping website. Like all children at a young age they blame themselfes. I lost control of my self and never ever made friends, talked to anyone, or even wave to someone.
I sat there as a lonley person blaming the world. Recently a girl forced me to talk to her and even look at her. As soon as she did these i fell in love. I thought dating her my dad would stop calling me gay but it only got worst. He started calling her a slut, and a guy and the reason why I loved her was because I am gay…. My girlfriend had a ex bf kiss her to get back at me for being to good at basketball. So I broke up with her trying to get away from what happened but all I saw was her so I went back. My dad on the other hand yelled at me, he told me over his phone if he saw me kiss her he would kill me, but I knew that was a lie.
And now his girlfriend thinks she can talk to me the same way. I am now 16 and my life is shitty. I have bad grades because I get yelled at at home all night and have no time to do it. And all I do for others is make there life worse. When I was a child my dad treated me like a worthless loser, I was a smart kid, good at maths and physics but my dad really made me feel useless, after years of struggling and addiction, I quitted ciggarettes, pills and weed 2 years ago and started working out, after 2 years I should Admit it didnt affect positive in my life, Im still a lonely loser without a girlfriend, although i look healthier and more attractive but the voice in my head making me crazy, I really have some serious suicidal thoughts … Im really exhausted, Im 29 and I feel Im a waste of time, every sturday night I stay at home, when I go outside I can not connect with any body and I see all the couples All the time and I feel different inside, come back home dissapointed because I cant use my youth power, I stucked in a loop, I know this summer gonna hurt me , I know , damn life.
Lately, my two best friends have been hanging out together and not with me. Since i felt like i should do a sport to impress everyone, I tried out for volleyball. This has gotten me really down this summer and my heart feels heavy constantly. Anyway, thanks for listening. Hey Kelsey, ahead of time I want to apologize for the length of my response. I kinda tend to go a bit overboard with details and some thoughts, feel free to skip to the last part and bits if you want to in some ways I think I know somewhat of how you feel. Like you I am also pretty anti-social, in fact going by your description I am possibly most likely even more so.
There was warm up training exercises, then running non stop from 30 minutes to an hour. I was the new person, and everyone else seemed to know each other. I ended up quitting after the season was over. What if I had stayed, what if I actually tried talking to the people in my team, what if things had been different. I have had multiple times when things like this had came up for me, I went to college and had pretty much the same thing happen for 6 years and afterwards at work. There are so many choices that we can make, its literally a giant tree of intersecting and multi-directional paths.
I actually kinda like having energetic people around because they sometimes have very strange and interesting conversations with everyone else that are fun to listen to or be a part of. Okay, so now about with what has been going on with your friends. Have you tried talking to them about it? True friends will stick up for each other and support each other no matter what is going on. Im 15 years old and on the outside Im normal.
My life seems normal.
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I have a brother a mom a dad… what else could I ask for?? Well… it all started when my parents got divorced. I had always thought mama loves daddy and daddy loves her. Thats what I thought. When I was little and my brother was born fights between them became more occurent.
They would scream at each other and throw their hands in the air. Lucky for me, my dad wasnt abusive so I never had to deal with that, but he was an alcoholic. I didnt know it at the time though. I moved multiple times 8 to be exact for my whole life. I was just one bubbly kid. I was talkative and really really social. But it seemed the more I moved the more that bubbliness went away.
When I was about 10 or 9 I realized my dad was a bad alcoholic. My brother was only 8 or 7.